Steve K. is the author of Sex and the Sacred City, a great little book on John Paul’s Theology of the Body. He is the pre-eminent expert I know of on issues of sexuality, marriage and the Church. He has written an awesome blog entry about how Christians basically lost the wars against divorce, abortion, gay issues, etc. in 1930 when Christians (except the One True Church) in this country and elsewhere rolled over on contraception. That changed how we viewed each other and our sexual relations. Sex was no longer a procreative act, but rather a means to personal pleasure. Your partner is really no longer a partner. He or she is now an object whose purpose is to please you. This has especially become true of men’s attitude toward women. Read it.